THE STANDARD *The week, judged by one standard — applied to everyone.*
Four streams this week, one question on repeat: who is doing the measuring, and are they measuring the right thing?
1. "HARD TO LOVE" IS A CLAIM. SO I CHECKED IT.
Before you grade every man you dated, ask what the relationship did to him.
A viral video said Black men are extremely hard to love and haven't done the inner work. I took it claim by claim. Inner work? Men already live under it — the world calls out every mistake we make. Emotional intelligence? That's maturity with no standard attached. Evolved past our mothers and grandmothers? Different doesn't mean evolved. Judge by results. I didn't finish high school; every one of my children did. That's a generational curse broken. If every man you dated wasn't about anything, was it him, or did you bring out the worst in him?
2. RICK ROSS HAD THE JET. HE NEVER HAD HER.
Money can't buy a real connection. Neither can fame.
Rick Ross bonded out this week on a domestic battery charge he calls "fabricated allegations," then told reporters his weekend plan: Dubai, Paris, and a bowl of rigatoni with heavy marinara. I don't condone domestic violence, and the court decides the case. I'm judging the choice. In every photo he's grinning and she's turning away. A jet, the cars, the bank account, and she still wouldn't look at him like he was the one. Money gets her to the table. Only genuine interest on both sides makes her stay.
3. A GOOD MAN SHOULDN'T BECOME THE PROBLEM
You compare a man to other men, not to the woman next to him.
Coming off the Remy Ma story, I named a common pattern: the good man gets liked at first, then run off, while the man with nothing going on gets the loyalty. The reason is comparison. A man with no job makes her job look like an accomplishment. A man with no car makes her car a flex. Pick a partner to look successful next to, and a man with better character becomes a threat. One caption said it best: you asked God for a good man, and He sent one so good that now you're the problem.
THE BIGGER LESSON
All three stories ran on the same broken measuring stick. A viral video graded men without checking the common denominator. A rich man measured success by what he could buy instead of whether she actually wanted him. A good man got measured against his partner instead of against other men, and lost. One standard means you check the ruler before you judge the person.
If the measurement only works when somebody else comes up short, it was never a standard.
THE BOOK
A king doesn't beg. He sets the rules. Rick Ross had everything money can buy and still spent it chasing somebody who never looked back. The Angryman Standard: Traditional Relationship Solutions for the Modern Man is how you stop chasing and start leading. theangrymanchannel.com/book.
Know a man still trying to buy what has to be earned? Forward this.
— The Angryman.